2 Samuel 11:2-5 NIV

One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, [3] and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” [4] Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (Now she was purifying herself from her monthly uncleanness.) Then she went back home. [5] The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.”

Covet – to wish long or crave for 
(something, especially the property of another 

David, a man after God’s own heart, saw what belonged to another, did everything, including murder, to ensure that he got it. Bathsheba. The guilt was disastrous, and the punishment was devastating; the death of their first born son.

Each of us can be accused of the same, of believing someone else’s spouse, property or talent is better than what we have. Like David, this could lead to negative sentiments (envy, greed, jealousy, resentment) and lead to sinful actions: sabotage, theft or like David, murder.

Clearly, coveting doesn’t seem to be worth it. Consider this, have you ever finally gotten something you really desired only to wonder why you ever wanted it in the first place? Now this is what happens when you finally get what you have coveted, the thrill of the chase is over, but what you envisioned as the satisfaction you would enjoy has been replaced by emptiness.

So, have you found yourself coveting what another has, consider the following:-

  1. Am I willing to pay the price they paid to get what they have? No matter what it is you are salivating over, their property, relationship, talent, realize that you are only seeing the fruit of relentless prayer, hard work, sacrifice and relentless perseverance that this person has put forth behind closed doors. Are you willing to incur the same costs?
  2. When you covet, you turn a blind eye to what you have. For each and every one of us, we have at one point been advised to not compare ourselves to others. Take this to heart. Every time you desire what someone else has, you turn a blind eye to the sea of blessings surrounding you. This makes you forget that you have already been blessed with so much, your attitude to your situation blinds you. Do you know there is someone praying for what you have? That there is someone looking at you and calling you blessed?
  3. Then what? Someone once called this the rule of 2. Will I still want this after 2 weeks? 2 years? will this still matter 2 decades from now? This rule advices to think beyond the now. So you really want what they have, then what? Will it really help you once you get it? Or destroy you?
  4. How will this affect me? Many have been known to covet fame only to bemoan its effect on their lives. There is pressure that comes with everything you have. Fame comes with the pressure of perfection. A big car or house comes with the pressure of maintenance, leadership comes with the pressure of scrutiny. When you desire what someone else has, do you know the pressure that comes with it? Are you ready to handle it?
  5. Original vs Photocopy. By coveting others and what they have, you may be tempted to be like them in order to get what you desire and even more, to keep it. You will be led to forget how special you are and will seek to be a second rate version of someone else. Don’t you know that no matter how good a photocopy is, it can never be as good as the original? Have you considered that you are robbing the world of the original and the impact you are designed to have on those around you by just excelling at being true to yourself?

Remember, you only see the cover of the book when you see the public life of others. They say don’t judge a book by its cover for a reason, you may not want to have the book once you sneak a glance at the inside.

Acts 13: 22 NIV

After removing Saul, he made David their king. God testified concerning him: ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.’