​We yearn for opportunities, we pray for opportunities and we seek for opportunities. The good news is that we meet opportunities. The bad news is that we miss the opportunities only to come to a later realization of missed opportunities. –  Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

Looking back, either due to our ignorance, stupidity or just plain pride, we have lost chances that ended up haunting us. Chances in business, love, rare windows of opportunity, name it, someone has lost it. The common reaction is to spend our energy and time thinking of what could have been,  trying to gain back what has slipped from our grasp after the realization of its value. This may work sometimes. But what do you do when the lost chance is lost forever? What do you do when what could have been remains just that,  a fantasy? 

How can we deal when this happens? 

1.Regret is useless.  It doesn’t help to keep looking back and dwelling on what ifs. There is a reason why you lost this chance, in most cases because of a fault of yours, so regretting what has already passed will only lead to self hatred and growing  desperation that could lead to wrong decisions. 

2.Learn from it. Be frank with yourself. Find out why and how you lost this chance and work towards learning from this experience. Don’t let any mistake go to waste, if you do, you will end up repeating the same mistake over and over again. 

3.Move on. So you lost a chance of a lifetime.  So you found out how and why you lost it. The best logic is moving on from it. After learning your lesson, don’t dwell on the same spot. Learning from the past involves making something out of it. Make something of your loss. There are as many possibilities as you can allow yourself to imagine. Get creative and dream bigger,  after all,  your loss has made you wiser. Don’t let fear hold you back. 

There is always a silver lining to every cloud, find it.