Such a simple word, two syllables, should be easy to use, right? We all know that ain’t the case. Many are afraid to use it, and even more are terrified of being on the receiving end. But why? 

Let’s start with those afraid of saying no. Many don’t want to hurt the other’s feelings,  don’t want to be perceived as mean…. The reasons (excuses?)  go on and on. But have you ever considered that when you give an excuse instead of the NO that’s at the tip of your tongue, you are just fundamentally lying? Giving false hope? If you were in the other’s shoes, would you prefer the lie, or the harsh truth?

If you’ve ever been told a NO, you know how harsh it can seem at that instant. But what about later? Were you glad you got the NO straight up? The NO won’t kill you. It may bruise your ego a bit, it may force you to reexamine yourself, but you’ll get stronger from it. You’ll not rely on external validation so much, you’ll have a straighter backbone because of it.  

We must say “no” to what, in our heart, we don’t want. We must say “no” to doing things out of obligation, thereby cheating those important to us of the purest expression of our love. We must say “no” to treating ourselves, our health, our needs as not as important as someone else’s. We must say “no”. 

                                          Suzette Hinton